It Takes a Village

Fathering, just like mothering takes moxie. It is not for the lighthearted. It takes effort and time and a selfless attitude.

At the same time, it takes someone who is willing to stand their ground at times and give in at other times.

And, most importantly, it takes someone who realizes it is important to allow others to be positive role models in their child’s lives too.

At a recent graduation open house, a high school teacher who taught all three of our daughters shared a moment that meant a lot to him. He was at an open house where a grandfather introduced himself, giving him a message that reinforced his decision to be a teacher was the right profession for him.

The grandfather thanked him for being such a positive role model and influence on both the man’s children and grandchildren.

That same teacher, who is now an assistant principal at an economically challenged school, commented on how many children are struggling as they are raised by grandparents, foster parents and at times the system.

It reminds me of the mantra, it takes a village to raise a child. Which is also a staunch reminder that we all have a responsibility to do our best to empower children. 

We need to remember that where there are children, there are opportunities to be a positive role model in the way we act, talk, and interact with others.

Are we tearing people down with our words or lifting them up? Are we resorting to violence instead of trying to resolve conflict peacefully? And when that is impossible, are we walking away or calling for help? 

And if you are someone who does not necessarily want to interact directly with children, there are still things you can do.

Each of us can vote for politicians who will be a positive role model for our next generation. 

We could support children through financial sponsorship of organizations that are mentoring children. 

In the end, even if you are not a parent or grandparent, as we focus on Fathers in June, let us remember the critical role each of us play in children’s lives and have the moxie to be the best we can be.