A prerequisite to my having children was that my husband had to be as involved in parenting as I would be. As someone who waited until later in life to get married, starting a family …
In my own life growing up my mother was pretty much the sole caretaker. My father was always there in our lives, but for me in a more hands off approach.
In fairness, the era I grew up in society’s expectation for what a father’s role in a child’s life was very different than what it is today.
My father was the primary financial provider and spiritual leader – no matter if that week he was working days or nights as a state trooper, he would always be in church with his family.
So, when I started dating my husband, I knew subconsciously what I was looking for in a spouse after living with my parents. I knew I wanted someone who I could respect, but who was also able to repair or build about anything and was a spiritual leader for our children.
I found that in my spouse and more.
As I have watched as my husband interacts with our three daughters it is so amazing and gratifying.
Not only does he love and protect them, he inspires and empowers them to be the best they can be and to strive for all they can achieve.
He leads by example through his actions and beliefs. While some might say he was short changed by not being blessed with a son to carry on the family name, my husband has embraced his three daughters as gifts from God, which they are.
I always say it takes a special man to live in a house full of women and my husband is just that. He has the patience that surpasses anyone and the ability to encourage our daughters to always strive for their best.
I have also been blessed to see how my father interacts with our daughters. After growing up in a home where affection was not readily shown, it has been overwhelming to see a lighter side of my dad.
They say grandchildren are the reward for raising children and I can certainly see that and the blessing that it is.
So, as we celebrate Father’s Day across the nation, I would just encourage all men who have a child or grandchild to take time whether it is on Father’s Day or another day this week, to embrace your child with loving words and actions.
They say to never underestimate the role you play in a child’s life and I truly believe that. Even if you haven’t been in your child’s life, it is never too late to make that connection.
