Divorce can be messy. Add children into the mix and it gets even messier.
It’s Different After Divorce
Confusion, Anger, Hurt, Guilt — these are just a few of the emotional responses children may feel during and after their parents’ divorce. While research suggests that couples with children are less likely to divorce, it is crucial to understand the impact divorce has on children – both in the short and long term.
Divorce is a life-transforming experience. After divorce, childhood is different. Adolescence is different. Adulthood—with the decision to marry or not and have children or not—is different. Whether the outcome is good or bad, the whole trajectory of an individual’s life is profoundly altered by the divorce experience.”
—Dr. Judith S. Wallerstein, noted divorce researcher
A recent study found that the largest regret of divorced couples was the impact it had on their children. Before we move forward, let’s clear something up: divorce in itself does not always “scar” children. There are many factors that influence how a child will be impacted by their parents’ separation — one factor being how the divorce is handled by the parents. Often a child’s hurt stems from their parents’ communication surrounding the situation. Clear and loving communication between the parents and child is absolutely necessary throughout the divorce process and in the years to follow.
Communication plays a large part on how a divorce will effect a child, but it is important to remember that every story is different. Different children will respond differently to divorce. While there are varied responses, it is imperative for teachers, social service professionals, pastors, community members and parents to understand the impact divorce may have on children.
This is why Radiant Health and the Indiana Wesleyan University Film Society have partnered for a free showing of the 30-minute documentary SPLIT. “SPLIT is a beautiful and eye-opening snapshot of divorce through the lens of a child,” says Amy McCready, Positive Parenting Solutions.
Following the film will be a time for Q&A with a panel of community leaders, including Barb Nehring from FSSI, Judge Dana Kenworthy from Grant County Superior Court 2, and IWU Social Work Professor Barbara Matchette.
This FREE event is open to both college students and community members. Discussion will reflect on the challenges a child may face following their parents’ divorce. Additionally, the discussion panel will give tips and resources for providing the necessary support for both the child and their parents.
For questions or more information regarding this event, please contact Becca Fleischer at 765-662-9971×106 or bfleischer@famservices.com.
