I Think My Friend is Suicidal, What Should I Do?

You may not know when or how to help them, if you should talk to them about it, or if you may make matters worse. Let me stop you right here – if you believe your friend is considering suicide, take it seriously and take action.

Here are some things you can do to help them:

LOOK FOR WARNING SIGNS:

Individuals at risk for suicide display warning signs, whether through their what they say or what they do. The more warning signs a person displays, the greater the risk of suicide.

If a person talks about:

• Killing themselves.
• Having no reason to live.
• Being a burden to others.
• Seeking revenge.
• Feeling trapped.
• Unbearable pain.

If a person displays these behaviors, especially if they are new or increased behaviors and in response to a painful event, loss or change:

• Increased use of alcohol or drugs.
• Looking for a way to kill themselves, such as searching online or buying a gun.
• Acting recklessly.
• Withdrawing from activities.
• Sleeping too much or too little.
• Visiting or calling people to say goodbye.
• Giving away prized possessions.
• Suffering from Panic Attacks.

(SOURCE: AMERICAN FOUNDATION FOR SUICIDE PREVENTION)

ASK QUESTIONS:

Don’t hesitate to start a conversation. Be sensitive toward their feelings, but don’t “beat around the bush.” The only way to get direct answers is to ask direct questions.

Some things you can ask:

• How are you coping with everything that’s happening in your life?
• Are you thinking about dying?
• Are you thinking about suicide?
• Have you thought about how you would do it?
• Do you know when you would do it?

Busting the myth: Asking someone if they are contemplating suicide will not “plant the idea in their head.” If you feel that a friend or someone you know is in crisis or depressed, asking them if they are thinking about suicide might actually help. Sometimes a caring friend and a listening ear can lift heavy burdens.

(SOURCE: MAYO CLINIC)

DON’T MINIMIZE:

If your friend says things such as, “I wish I were dead” or “I feel like no one cares about me,” don’t write them off as being dramatic. They are voicing their feelings to you – take them seriously. Instead of ignoring statements like these, offer your friend the support they need.

SEEK OUTSIDE HELP:

If you believe that someone is at risk for suicide:

• Do not leave them alone.
• Ask them to call the Suicide Prevention Lifeline
  1-800-273-TALK
• Remove access to lethal means, such as firearms and drugs.
• Take them to an emergency room or counseling service.
• In an emergency, always call 911.

SOURCE: AMERICAN FOUNDATION FOR SUICIDE PREVENTION)

Busting the myth: Don’t fall for the lie that suicide is not preventable. Interventions can save lives!